I’m not one for preaching because I believe I’m still learning and am not qualified to give expert advice. However, this is something I learned and it worked for me, so it might work for someone else as well. This isn’t professional advice, but rather personal guidance.
Healing is one of the most difficult things you’ll ever have to do. And I’m talking about mental healing. It’s possible that you’re recovering from a terrible breakup, a poisonous friendship, or even personal trauma. Healing and moving on take time. And the healing process should be gradual rather than continual. The most important thing is that you keep trying and concentrating on improving.
These three rules proved to be incredibly beneficial in the healing process:
Rule#1: Take Care of Yourself.
When you’re going through a difficult time, it’s easy to get caught up in the agony and forget that it’s being imposed on you. The first and most important rule is that you must look after yourself. Make sure you drink plenty of water. Read a book that you enjoy. Watch your favorite show. Eat your favorite food. You are the one who is going through this and the only one who understands how it feels, so you know how to take care of yourself better.
Rule#2: Don’t Dwell Much on The Past.
You may find yourself unable to stop thinking about what happened, but always remember that your thoughts are under your control. Whatever happened to you is no longer relevant. And concentrating on something that happened will not help you.
Rule#3: Don’t Hate.
Don’t seek revenge. Don’t hate. Don’t let negative thoughts consume your mind and emotions. Hating them shows you still care about them. They are unworthy of any emotion from you, including hatred.
Finally, I hope you’ve learned to control your demons. And don’t forget to ask for help when you need it.